I dropped my kids off at grandma and grandpa’s house so 1) I could have some respite, 2) grandpa could get the time with them he’s been asking for, and 3) the kids could have lots of outside time and some respite of their own.

As I left, here were the responses from my three very different children:

Grace: When is mom leaving?  I’m ready for some time without her.
Eli: Stop kissing me.
Ada: Don’t leave!  I will miss you!  Why can’t I come with?? (with lots of tears)

I’ve had four phone calls so far from my homesick Ada AND Grace.

I’m learning that each of these responses is appropriate for their ages.  Grace is 10, and growing in her independence.  She wants to strike out on her own, and since I represent boundaries, she wants to be away from me.  Eli is 9, and 100% boy.  Hugs and kisses are not high on his list of priorities, ESPECIALLY in front of others.  Ada is 7 1/2 and really loves to be with us.  She’s a cuddler through and through.

As a side note, if you don’t get the chance to talk to your kids on the phone very much because you are usually the one WITH them, I highly recommend it.  Their little voices seem so much sweeter over the phone.

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