There’s a Billy Joel song called “She’s Always a Woman To Me” and there’s a line in it that goes, “She never gives up, and she never gives in, she just changes her mind.”  I told Chad those lyrics one day and he burst out laughing.  I don’t think it’s so funny.  In fact, I think it sounds perfectly reasonable.

I was at a friend’s house a while back, and her husband said, “Here, you HAVE to try these.”  My friend quickly said, “Don’t tell her she has to, or she won’t.”  Am I really that bad?  Probably.  I then thought through the people in my life who could tell me to do something, and I would listen unquestioningly.  The thought process was long, and the list was short.  Chad.  The end.  If Chad told me I had to do something, I would do it – and it’s because I trust him.  He knows me.  He knows my anti-authority-ness.  He knows my need to know why.  So I know that if he told me to do something, without a reason, I could trust that it was for a good reason.  I’m not talking about the bossy, controlling, use-me-as-a-door-mat kind of “tell me to do something”, just your run of the mill request.  My husband loves me and respects me and would never ask me to do something that wasn’t beneficial for our family.

I then asked Chad if I ever told him no, or pushed back when he needed me to do something, and after much thought, he couldn’t even think of a time when he had to “put his foot down” about something that I didn’t agree with.  So that’s good!  But if that time comes, I believe that I would go along with his decision, trusting and respecting his judgment.  I mean come on now, I wouldn’t marry an unintelligent man. 🙂